Are We Forgetting How to Love?
Me, definitely not. I just became more & more selective (especially now, during my recovery process..), as we live in a very superficial world. Actually I am full of love. Not superficial. And I really have high standards.
Oh my, oh my, that Love.. I think I can speak about it 24/7. Divine love.. Passionate, crazy love.. everything but ordinary, with lot of respect and confidence. I live to love.
So: Why have people forgotten how to love? Why are people afraid of/to love? Why do they think love hurts?
When: Love doesn’t hurt. A person who doesn’t know how to love hurts you. There is a big difference. Don’t confuse these two. True love can only heal you.
First of all you have to learn how to love yourself.
Secondly, when you learn that, you are ready to love other(s). People think they know how to love.. but most of the time their ego manages their heart. When you love someone you need to love that person so he/she feels free. To accept him/her how she/he is. Not to try to change her/him because of your own insecurities. Or to cage your partner so he/she feels manipulated. Or controlled. You need to bring out the best from each other. To support each other. To respect each other. Make your partner your best friend, your best lover. If it is not like that, you are definitely in the wrong relationship!
Easy to say, hard to do. But hey.. not impossible.
It depends only on you and your choices. You need to be sure what you want.. what kind of love? Don’t play with other people’s emotions just because you are insecure in your own. So ask yourself what do you want? Listen to your inner voice, and trust your energy. Energy never lies.
Do you want love at all?! Come on, it is our essence of course you want someone by your side, in the good and bad, but not just anybody. And not just because you don’t like to be single. You just need to choose very carefully. You will need to work on it, not give up because you have had some bad experience. Or you’ve been hurt..
Trust is EVERYTHING.
Generally, everything has become so superficial, and our true values have almost disappeared, we live in a material world with a lack of empathy. This is one of the reasons why people have forgot what love is. People are afraid of commitment. They forgot to love with passion, to have profound conversations in relationships, they forgot what communication is, what a team is, to look into their partners eyes to see their soul.. they forgot to build a relationship, to nurture it.
It became much easier to go on social networks and search for an current escape from reality, than to sit and look at their partner’s eyes and try to solve what is causing problem in their relationship.
They take each other for granted and simply they neglect each other. Looking for a current escape, behind your partner’s back just can multiply problems in a relationship. The thing is: where there is love everything can be solved, but if you feel you kind of need to force “love”, it is not love, so let that shit go.. because both of you deserve love. Actually there are two things more, in my opinion, for a good, healthy relationship:
I call it the holy Triangle: Love, Respect and Trust.
Because if one of these things is missing.. darling, I must tell you, you are wasting your precious time.
Where there is respect, confidence and love between partners, everything can be solved. Be mature and speak openly about everything. How you feel, what hurts you.. what bothers you.. But always ask yourself: Are we happy? Do we still love each other? If yes, speak with your partner, it is an essential thing to do. It is the base of any relationship. Learn to speak about everything, even if you are going to feel “stupid”. You have to be best friends with your partner.
Where there is no love, and you stay in that kind of relationship.. you are just causing more problems.. to yourself, to your partner and to your surroundings. Actually you are living in denial.
You become unhappy.
You are hurting yourself and your partner.
At the end.. You are looking for the something on the side.. some kind of escape.
There we go, as you can see, it is not about love, it is about you! Love doesn’t hurt.
You are afraid if you are going to break up that relationship, you are going to feel lonely, miserable or maybe you fear people’s judgment. You are going to feel bad.. but hey, don’t you already feel bad enough by staying in some relationship that is not healthy? So what if you are going to be single?
Better single than in the relationship without love.
You will have time for yourself and you will let new, positive things come in your life. Then, who cares what people think.. just do the right thing based on how you feel. For you and your partner’s sake.
So answer these questions:
1. Are you happy and fulfilled with your love and relationship? Are you satisfied?
2. Do you love your partner?
3. If not, why would you want to stay in that relationship?
4. If yes, stop reading this and go to tell your partner you love him/her and sort any shit between you two. Don’t play ego games, but listen to your heart, because tomorrow can be too late.
So, Are You Forgetting How to Love?
Love oh that love.. oh yes, and Passion of course. :))) Have I said already that I can speak 24/7 about love?
I mean – I am love. :)))