“Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you, as deeply as they’ve met themselves.” – Matt Kahn.
Once you have said something, it is enough. For those capable of understanding (you). Unfortunately, sometimes or often you are “caught” in situations where you have to repeat yourself. Simply because you want/wish to be understood. In any sphere of your life. Whether is personal life or business life. There’s nothing more annoying than when you need to repeat yourself. But.. it takes time to learn one thing: People usually understand only what they want to understand. Or only the things they are capable to understand. So when you learn that, through your experience, you will stop doing it. You will see that you actually waste your time, energy.. by repeating the same things over and over again. You have to stop doing that, unless you have some precious time to waste. Don’t repeat yourself.
People see only what they want to see. People hear only what they want to hear. Every person has their own way of looking at things and he speaks from that perspective. Every perspective is different and there are a number of reasons for that, like, education level, lack of information, limited view.. Also, what one will understand depends on his focus.
I have good news for you! IT SPEAKS ABOUT THEMSELVES not about you! So repeating yourself will not only exhaust you, but it will also waste your time. You are going to feel worse than before just by trying to explain yourself to someone who “can’t” understand you. You are going to wonder: “Why don’t they understand me? Maybe I can’t explain myself good enough?!” If you are sure that you was clear enough, then Stop questioning yourself . Because:
NO, THEY SIMPLY DON’T UNDERSTAND YOU.
So don’t waste your time on people who can’t see real you. Don’t waste your time with people who will twist your words around. Surround yourself with people who make you smile, who can understand you without having to say a word. Surround yourself with people who will support you and who will appreciate your presence in their life. Surround yourself with people with whom silence sounds so nice. Surround yourself with people who share your thoughts and your vision. Surround yourself with people with same vibration and make sure that your vibration energy is on really high level. That’s how it won’t be necessary to repeat yourself. Nor explaining yourself.
Don’t repeat yourself. Don’t waste your time with explanations. You are creator of your life. Choose people wisely, who will be part of your life.
Let’s not forget situations when we are the ones who can’t understand someone’s words. That should be a good example & exercise for us to learn how does it feel like. But also to learn that we have to seek to understand other people’s perspectives. Then, how to develop our emotional intelligence so as empathy in order to improve our relationships. Also how to control our ego instead of getting mad if someone can’t reach us. If you want to be understood then seek to understand.
Do you know you become like 5 people you spend the most time with? And all of them are reflection of yourself. Do you like what you see?