How do you react if someone is rude to you?
We live in the world of modern technology where people tend to have quite a liberated approach to speaking to you, just because THEY WISH so. Most people don’t ask themselves: Whether that other person wants to speak to them? Of course, if you show interest in someone, you send a message to that person, and that’s completely FINE.. What I would like to point out is:
If you receive NO for an answer, how do you react?
Most of the time, people get offended, then they start to insult or show any kind of disrespect towards that person. A minute ago they were all kind and sweet trying to approach you, and then “all of a sudden” they start to behave with no respect. Actually they show their real face. They show that they can’t control their Ego. We all have Ego, but this is the sign that you can’t control it. They show their insecurities and frustrations.
Also, lack of proper behaviour, immaturity, empathy. I would say there is lots of space for improvement.
The thing is that people don’t think that way about themselves. Only people who are “awake” will recognise this and start to change themselves. Most people do not actually know how to think for themselves, and unfortunately that prevents them from even knowing it. Paradoxical right?
So what can we do to protect ourselves?
I have one exercise that I have invented.. and it helps me a lot, so maybe it will help you too.
When someone wants to talk to me on the internet I always imagine the picture, that we are on the street, or supermarket. I assure you that you can also feel the energy, and their intentions even if it is a virtual conversation. So pay attention and do that exercise. How would you react if some unknown person approaches you in the supermarket and tells you: hey beautiful.. how are you doing? A bit freaky, scary, right?
Before you start to point your finger, make sure you are not one of those pushy people. If you are, recognise that, apologise and that’s the first step to being a better person. To yourself, to others and to the world. I ask all people I have contact with to tell me if I am too pushy, so I could stop being pushy to them. Simply because I am the type of person who is always looking for a solution and how to fix the situation. I strive and enjoy good communication and I don’t like guessing games. Nor the silent treatment.. I always like to ask and to be told! No reading between the lines.. So communication oh that communication is so important. Good communication also needs you to be able to grow up and be mature. 🙂
Personally, I like to point out things, as usual. I don’t accept any kind of disrespect in my life. I won’t react like Al Capone, but this quote is perfect: ‘Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness. I am kind to everyone, but when someone is unkind to me, weak is not what you are going to remember about me.’
Although I am from Serbia, so who knows.. :))))
‘Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.’ We have to evaluate the situation and to react. We have to try to choose the right thing to do. Sometimes we must interfere.
Next thing, I never liked the belief that one should be quiet if some other person has done something wrong to them. Why be quiet? Why? Being quiet means accepting, so why would you accept that? You give no good example to yourself, kids or any other person who sees you as a role model. No names, no shames? NO! If you ask me. We all should be speaking out loud in order to point out all those suppressors, to stop them doing the same thing to other people. Especially on the internet. Especially on here! As I said it before, People show their real faces on the internet.
There’s not two of you. Internet you and the real you.
There is just only one REAL you!
So if you are rude here, to me you are one RUDE person. Actually that’s something that “scares” me. Seeing so many rude, weak people on the internet. You know what, real life is internet too! And you are more real on the internet than in real life. When you go out on the street, or your job, you put a “mask” to hide your feelings, to please others, to do things that others expect from you to do..
And that’s not the real you! So the internet allows you to show all those things that are suppressed from within. And that’s the real you! This also applies for “real life”. If someone is rude to others, but nice to you, let me clear it for you: he is not a nice person, he just wants something from you.
There we go again: Give what you want to receive. Treat others the same way you want to be treated. Don’t expect others to behave like you would like them to.
Don’t expect, but accept.
WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT, the only thing that should be the same for everybody is to accept others as they are! If you don’t like someone, that’s also ok! But instead of being rude (it speaks about you) to that person, accept the fact that maybe others will love everything about that person that you don’t. Likewise, not everybody will love you, neither should they! Concentrate on yourself not others. Learn to accept the differences. Learn to accept NO for an answer. It will help you to grow, to be mature, to be responsible.. you will be a better person, to yourself, to others and you will make the world a better place to live in.
Always start to analyse from within yourself.
So, let me introduce myself. My name is Irina Vujaklija and I was born in Belgrade on 31 January 1979. Who am I? Love. I know, you will roll your eyes.. But that is how it is. Discovering my true self wasn’t an easy process. Constantly working on myself, learning by seeking answers to many questions, I have managed to overcome very complicated life situations. Among other things, my severe motorcycle accident in 2004. A life altering moment in just one second.