What does love mean to you?

People call love very different things and they express love in very different, sometimes strange, even extreme ways. I see a lot of different comments everywhere and permit me to say, I am shocked at how people see/live/feel love. Oh, those misconceptions about love can lead you to one very unhappy life.

Some of them say love hurts. If you don’t suffer it means you don’t love. Oh? Really? Says who? Maybe that song: Love hurts..? If only he knew (author of the song), if only I knew.. but I know now, so let me tell you one thing, love doesn’t hurt, love has nothing to do with suffering. Some people can hurt you, because they don’t know what love is and they don’t know how to love, they don’t even know how to love themselves. Lots of people actually. So, don’t confuse those two things!




Some will say, people love you until money runs out.. Oh? Really? You say that love is some kind of interest?

Some will say that people love you until you do better than them. Oh? You call love insecurity?

Some will say that love is about sacrificing.. well no! If you do something with love there is no sacrifice, it is simply LOVE. The most often excuses and “suffering” in relationships/marriages are when people stay together without love, but because, as they say: They sacrifice themselves and stay together because of the children. Please stop hiding behind love if you are afraid to change your life. Stop using love in terms of sacrifices, if you are afraid of what people will think of you, or any other fears, obstacles that you may have. (I will leave these subjects for another post)

Some will say they need love.. let me ask you this: Do you give love in order to receive it? Expectations vs. Offer.

Some will say that they do things with love but expect something in return. Wow. You call love a business? Is that what you think about love? When you do something with a pure heart, whether it is helping, etc you dont expect something in return!!! You simply do them with a pure heart, with the intention that the other person feels good.. because that’s what love is!

Some will say that signs of love are: insults or frustrations. For example when she/he comes home and takes out all their frustrations on you, just because he/she feels “safe” there. He/she couldn’t behave in this way with his/her boss (or with any other person or situation that maybe caused the frustration), but he can with you just because he loves you and you love him, and you know that’s a kind of normal expression of love. Oh isn’t that just beautiful. Don’t confuse love with a poor weak character, immaturity and bad education. There are even extreme cases like beating.. I don’t even wanna go there. Who taught you that?

And sooo on..

DEFINITION folks, DEFINITIONS!

And your intentions. Define every single thing in your life. Simplify things and make your life easier. But firstly, learn what love is. Educate yourself.. knowledge and information give you power.

Finally:

Love heals. Love is divine and essential. You should learn how to love yourself first in order to know how to love others.

Next, how do you see love, it speaks a lot about yourself and actually it says do you know or not, what love is. Did you know that we see things as we are? That what we see in others can teach us a lot about ourselves? If you are one of those people who sees love in any kind of negative context, maybe you should start by asking yourself (as always!):

1. What does love mean to me? (define love)

2. Do I love myself?

3. Do I know how to love others?

4. Do I feel loved?

5. Am I receiving the love I give & in the way I would love to feel loved?

If you have answered with a no to almost all of these questions.. it is about time to work on yourself. Don’t let your life pass by living without love.

And please, pleaaaseeeee do not say EVER again that love hurts. NEVER!


Nini

So, let me introduce myself. My name is Irina Vujaklija and I was born in Belgrade on 31 January 1979. Who am I? Love. I know, you will roll your eyes.. But that is how it is. Discovering my true self wasn’t an easy process. Constantly working on myself, learning by seeking answers to many questions, I have managed to overcome very complicated life situations. Among other things, my severe motorcycle accident in 2004. A life altering moment in just one second.