For all those unhappy, unhealthy relationships..
Observing one child, you can see situation between parents. Child absorbs their energy. So, you can see the whole picture. Hmmm.. that makes me think of family today and values in life?
What does the word “family” mean for you?
Is it just a pointless form of spending life with somebody, or escape from everyday stress, or you (have) want to form a family just because society, parents said that you should do so.. Or is it your comfort zone?
How happy you are – really?
Let me clear one thing, before I continue, my childhood wasn’t great. But, exactly because of this, now I know what I want and what I need. I listen to my inner voice no matter what. And I follow my heart. Well, following your heart can be painful, sometimes, but trust me, that’s the only right way to do. To me, family is essence, it is all about essence. Love like essential thing. Support. Respect. Being honest. Being Faithful. Being friend to your partner. Best friend. Lover. It is your base, your “nirvana”. Family is like a team.
Nowadays, everything is so superficial.
The more smartphones we have, the more useless we become. Useless to think, useless to do things the right way, useless to use our imagination, useless to value right things. But so easy to find good restaurant (which is a good thing :D) or superficial relationship (you know what I mean by this..), it is very easy to be unfaithful & to do all those things that you wouldn’t like that someone else (your partner) is doing to you. So, why do you do that?
Then, what is next.. you get married because “it is time” to get married. You want to have children, because “time is running out”.. You do some job that you don’t even like or in the company, where you don’t feel good.. You (want to) live in a big city, with lots of stress. After your job, you go back home where your partner is waiting for you, with, more or less, the same level of stress.. child is crying.. and you are collapsing..
So what are you going to do?
You stay in that marriage/relationship because you are afraid of change, or because you fear social judgment, or, for who knows what excuse you have.. You are living your life without love.. Everything is so fOcked up, that, even if you want to find a solution, you don’t even know where to start. So, you give up.. But, that is because you have done everything wrong..
Actually not wrong, you have done the best you could do in that moment. You just lived your life like you’ve been taught to, instead of following your heart. But if you are aware now of all those things, and you do nothing about it.. that is wrong. Wrong for you, not for your neighbours. Thus.. It’s up to you.
Yes we live in the world where most of people value you, based on what you have (material) and not by who you are.
Most people have accepted to live that way, because they don’t want to be rejected. But deep inside, they know the truth.. So all of you who live your life that way.. the problem is, that you have lost connection with yourself such a long time ago..
You live your life to other people’s expectations, instead of living it on your own way. There are so many unhappy relationships/marriages today that is so disappointing. Don’t be one of them. And, don’t forget, kids are living and growing up absorbing that energy.
We all deserve love
Your child is learning from you, following your example (most of them).. he is going to be version of yourself.. so answer to this question: do you really want that your kid(s) live like you do? Whatever your answer is, it will be exactly the same to the next question: Are you happy and fulfilled with your life?
Are you creating your life? If your answer is yes, just keep doing whatever you do, and if your answer is no, it is about time to change your life. Don’t forget that you are the creator of your life, so make it worth remembering. At least because you have to be responsible for your kids and their future.
Be the best version of yourself! LOVE!